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naeap@sopuli.xyz 13 hours agoThis really is infuriating
Because people not showing respect to food - and keep it in its perfect shape and structure, as it’s supposed to be!
And obviously, I’m not diagnosed with anything, only my wife complains, that’s it really hard to cook with me ;-)
fizzle@quokk.au 12 hours ago
I refuse to cook with my partner because she can’t just acknowledge that everyone does things in their own way, which is not necessarily better or worse than her way.
Basically, she’s super bossy.
naeap@sopuli.xyz 12 hours ago
My partner thinks the same of me 😞
I’m very focused on optimizing things and sometimes I just want to ask, why she is doing things her way, because I think, that I’m maybe missing something.
She always brings up the example, that I even tell her, she wakes tomatoes wrong, because she used warm water.
But they are just easier to cut, when they are cold and the skin doesn’t already separate
She takes the critique very personal and now it’s mostly me cooking…
Which is fine, but I’m feeling bad, because I didn’t want to say, that she does something wrong, I see such things as external and we can improve, not attached to the person as a being.
So, when she does something better, I don’t feel bad, I try to adapt her style.
Other way round, it’s always a personal critique it seems
But I’m also very picky with food and obviously not an easy person. So I’m happy, she still sticks with me and I’ll happily cook for her
papalonian@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
When she does something better, do you say something to her that shows her you’ve learned something and are going to change how you do it? It might seem like you have a “I always know best, my way or the highway” attitude but if you show a bit of humility and can accept that you don’t always have the best methods, it might show her that you don’t want things always done “your way”, you’re just looking for the “best way”.
naeap@sopuli.xyz 8 hours ago
I ask, why she does that this way, so I can learn, and yes, I then tell her, that this is cool and I’m happy to do it that way as well
But asking already is triggering a defense mechanism now… 😞
In general, we are perfectly fine though and very happy with each other
So this is not a real problem, just would like to do it better