Definitely appreciate the comment.

I’m bicoastal in two gigantic cities and counterintuitively that likely exacerbates the problem.

I would love to be with someone “age appropriate” (hate that term) if they align with my lifestyle. I’ve probably encountered that less than five times.

Maybe I’m immature? Midlife crisis? I don’t think so and my therapist is brutally honest - she doesn’t see any red flags. I’m choosy about those with whom I share my time and I’m probably overly conscious that there isn’t an unhealthy power dynamic (as is common with larger age gaps.)