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• velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  You said it happens all the time. Can you show me what you’re talking about?

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  • wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Are you saying you won’t take my word for it as a man that my experiences as a man have included a pattern of being invalidated and erased in spaces where people talk about the problems they face?

    Imagine if the roles were reversed. Imagine a man saying “You said it happens all the time. Can you show me what you’re talking about?” to a woman who says she’s experienced a pattern of treatment by society.

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    • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      And I would be able to pull up quite a few examples, including this post right here.

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      • wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        But would you? It seems more often the response is just to call it misogyny that someone would even ask for proof.

        And what about for discourse about stuff that happens in person rather than online, where there’s no written record of the things said and done?

        How do you prove microaggressions that are whispered in passing? It would be ridiculous to expect someone to prove that kind of experience.

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