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Men have unique insecurities that are a result of socital expectations. We gaslight ourselves into conforming to a certain expected behavior. Many, if not most cishet men are afraid to explore their sexuality beyond that which is considered the heteronormative standard. Men are victims of the patriarchy as are everyone else.

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CyberTheProtogen@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
Yep. I find the major thing holding me back from most kinks is exactly that; insecurity.

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- daggermoon@piefed.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  For what it’s worth, you’re not alone.
  
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  - CyberTheProtogen@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    Wow, this community is a whole lot more supportive than I expected
    
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    Captain_Buddha@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    The posts are shit… The advice is lit…
    
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    daggermoon@piefed.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    I’m glad to hear you say that. I hope you enjoy Lemmy. Welcome!
    
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sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
And the corrollary to that, that even less people want to talk about, is that straight, traditional cis men and women will then mock and shame men who actually do try think outside the box.

So, many men are victims of patriarchy, and many women are perpetrators of patriarchy.

Then you get to the incredibly confusing ‘now’, where many women will claim to be a feminist, yet will also mock and shame men who do not conform to stereotypical male lifestyle/relationship norms.

Actual feminism vs Pop feminism.

Actual feminism seeks to identify and challenge and critique societal gender roles and norms. All societal gender roles and norms.

Pop feminism is basically psuedo (meaning ‘impostor’ or ‘fake’) feminism, that pretty much just boils down to misandry, using a set of buzzwords and terms basically bastardized from actual feminism.

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too_high_for_this@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
Being good at sex is kinda gay, though

/s

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blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
As a cishet man, much to the contrary - the vast majority of my sexual insecurities come from shaming of my sexuality from more left wing spaces.

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- darth_grunkus@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  In what way? Genuinely curious.
  
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MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
We have porn for that. Which is 90% only for males.

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