This is why kink is celebrated at Pride, society makes people feel shame for the things they enjoy.
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gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Hey, kink is fun as hell. The whole societal shame bullshit around anything related to sex outside of the context of procreation is fucking dumb, and I’ve more or less fully rejected that mindset at this point. We are humans; humans were designed to feel good when smashing; hence, we like to smash. And exploring fun aspects and dynamics in that context is exciting and delightful.
Remember: “tradition” is just peer pressure from dead people.
YoureHotCupCake@lemmy.world 3 days ago
MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 4 days ago
That’s not a kink. Sex for fun is entirely normal human.
gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
There’s definitely a gender dichotomy in terms of societal acceptance of sex as a form of fun. For men, it’s generally like “yeah, get some!”; for women; it’s often a lot closer to “omg you whore 😱”
gandalf_der_12te@feddit.org 4 days ago
there’s definitely a gender dichotomy that goes far back to england and the puritans who believed that basically women are inferior beings for having a sex drive (because that’s devilish), meanwhile men got a semi-pass possibly because they’re more difficult to say “no” to.
anyways, the english church is single-handedly responsible for the divide of human culture from human nature. nowhere else in the world (and i’ve studied a lot of philosophy!) have i seen such a great divide. it’s all about the asymmetry of good and bad.
gandalf_der_12te@feddit.org 4 days ago
just as a follow-up, the sad thing is, nobody could explain to me why the puritans have such a strong aversion to sex. it’s just postulated but without any proof or at least hint that would make it plausible.