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• davidagain@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  You missed out could. That’s why we are not the same.

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  • Dyskolos@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    OK, if you are technically unable to do the act. Which now is lightyears away from my point 😁

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    • davidagain@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      You’re deliberately misinterpreting me and insulting me at the same time. There’s no need for that.

      You said

      Sex you can have with everyone and get it everywhere.

      And that’s simply not true for most of us.

      You characterised love and affection as hard to find, but I get love of various sorts readily from my wife, children and other family, and a great deal of affection from friends and some colleagues. You characterised sex as easy to find, stating I could get it anywhere and any time with anyone, and you argued with people who disagree, but the truth is that I can get sex only in my bedroom, only with my wife, only at night, and only when she is in the mood for it, and anything else is pure fiction, for me. Maybe not for you, but definitely for me.

      That fact that you even think to assert that love and affection are hard to find and sex is easy to find is why we live very, very, very different lives. I’m not asking to swap, but we are NOT the same.

      Maybe you mean something different than you’re saying, but of you want to get your point across to us ordinary folk for whom a sex life as busy as our libido was a teenage fantasy that never turned up, you’d better start rephrasing and explaining rather than just claiming “technical” truth.

      It’s “technically” true that you can get affection anywhere. Yesterday I gave a homeless guy a lift from his begging pitch outside the bus station to his tent and bought him and his girlfriend a pizza hut on the way, and he cried and hugged me. Today I met up with a bunch of friends and got about four hugs, which is totally normal for that bunch. Most people wouldn’t call it love, but it’s heaps of affection.

      We live very different lives for you to claim what you claim.

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      • Dyskolos@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        I guess you deliberately want to misunderstand me. And I don’t even get why.

        Love is something rare, where two souls need find each other.

        Sex, I could go to the next brothel and have it 10 times a day. Or go on tinder and let golddiggers have it. If you’re a decently attractive woman, you’ll get it for free on tinder in 5 minutes. Or in the next bar or wherever. I can also walk around asking anyone until I’m lucky.

        So that’s a simple COULD. Love you cannot simply get.

        Maybe my point was badly phrased, I dunno. But insulting you surely wasn’t my goal.

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