Comment on Is there a word for people who will mess something up and blame the victim for it?
litchralee@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Deflection: dictionary.cambridge.org/us/…/deflection
The act of attacking or blaming another person rather than accepting criticism or blame for your own actions: Deflection is a psychological defense mechanism.
TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Ya definitely deflection, is there a word for people who chronically do this?
foodandart@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
I’ve often thought the word “asshole” fits…
litchralee@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
I don’t disagree. But seeing as OP specifically asked for a word, I’m inclined to offer the most specific, most descriptive word I can muster that is germane to what they’ve described.
IMO, precision of language is paramount when it comes to addressing other people’s problematic behavior, because it closes the door on excuses like “it’s just a simple misunderstanding” or “that’s just their opinion”.
The most poignant example I’ve heard of are from parents that make absolutely certain that their children learn the proper names for their body parts. As in, not “hoo-hah” or “privates” but the actual, unambiguous clinical names. This is a marked improvement than the TV trope of “where on the doll did the bad man touch you”.
foodandart@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
Ah, yes… then narcissist is the one.
FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 1 day ago
“Victim blamers” works