Comment on Is there a word for people who will mess something up and blame the victim for it?

litchralee@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Ya definitely deflection, is there a word for people who chronically do this?

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  • foodandart@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I’ve often thought the word “asshole” fits…

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    • litchralee@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I don’t disagree. But seeing as OP specifically asked for a word, I’m inclined to offer the most specific, most descriptive word I can muster that is germane to what they’ve described.

      IMO, precision of language is paramount when it comes to addressing other people’s problematic behavior, because it closes the door on excuses like “it’s just a simple misunderstanding” or “that’s just their opinion”.

      The most poignant example I’ve heard of are from parents that make absolutely certain that their children learn the proper names for their body parts. As in, not “hoo-hah” or “privates” but the actual, unambiguous clinical names. This is a marked improvement than the TV trope of “where on the doll did the bad man touch you”.

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      • foodandart@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Ah, yes… then narcissist is the one.

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    • LovableSidekick@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      For general purposes yes, but if somebody is looking for the name of a certain kind of cabinet they want more than “furniture”.

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  • FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    “Victim blamers” works

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