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thedarkfly@feddit.org 5 days ago
I’ve never understood childfree communities and posts. Is it because parents can’t shut up about their kids so you’re doing the same? Are your friends having children and you don’t like the change? Are you feeling pressure from family or society and rejecting it? Or shadenfreude for struggling parents?
I just can’t imagine it as something positive. It always looks like people are seething about something.
Notyou@sopuli.xyz 4 days ago
As a child free person myself, I see it as more it being annoyed from all the pro-child people. I’m a guy so my push back was minimal. My wife has has many people talking to her for years about… how she will change her mind What if a future husband want kids Does your husband beat you and that’s why you don’t want kids
She had to go through over a decade of telling her doctor before she was able to get anything medical so prevent kids.
We have nieces and nephews. We love them. Kids are great, but just not for us. I think the people that post aggressively about child free probably had to go through a lot of BS like my wife did.
thedarkfly@feddit.org 4 days ago
I’ll share my personal situation in return. I’m not a parent, but I’d like to be someday. And indeed I feel very anxious about losing my free time etc. That’s why I’m taking this a bit personally, these childfree posts are not helping me at. all. 😅
thedarkfly@feddit.org 4 days ago
Thanks for sharing your experience! I can 100% understand and share how you both feel. It’s unacceptable to pressure someone into making choices that aren’t theirs. Not having a child is a personal decision that is not up to debate and should be accepted without justification.
But that’s what I’m talking about. Child free content on social networks appears like an expression pride, joy or contentment, but feels to me more like an expression of hurt. Instead of celebrating what people love in their childfree lives, it always looks to be somehow addressed to parents to taunt them or revel.
Idk. Maybe it’s like pride parades. People being oppressed for who they are want to openly proclaim their identities because it makes them feel good and I’m overthinking it.