Comment on Is it weird that I cringe whenever someone calls my name and I avoid using peoples names when talking to them?

Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

• early_riser@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Spamming my name in conversation is a whole other thing. It feels like they’re trying to sell me something, or otherwise persuade or convince by faking a level of trust they haven’t earned.

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  • yilian@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    Yes! It’s akin to someone touching me unbidden. It’s gross and it feels gross to do use people’s names around them. I almost never call my partner by their name to them.

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  • Hacksaw@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    They’re usually just trying to remember your name so they repeat it a few times in the first few conversations and whenever they forget.

    I used to feel like you to some extent and I realised that it takes me a long time to remember people’s names, and part of why I hated hearing my name is because it reminded me that I might not know the other person’s name and they might be upset that I don’t remember it like they remember mine. That was my “trauma” that made me hate hearing my name in conversation.

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    • Ice@lemmy.zip ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      100%, I’m terrible at remembering peoples names so I force myself to say it a few times after meeting someone new, really helps it stick.

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  • Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    YES ABSOLUTELY. It squicks me out so much. I used to work in a call center and I was very friendly but definitely all business—with what I was doing, the reasons for calls are very cut-and-dry. When I would pick up the phone and greet someone and they’d go off with:

    “Good morning, Rai. How are you doing today?”

    “…great”

    “That’s good to hear, Rai. Rai, can I ask…”

    I instantly am in a nightmare world and want to delete them from my life.

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    • yilian@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      This 100%

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