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toynbee@piefed.social 2 days ago
All of these responses are suggestions about how to get away with it with varying degrees of cleverness. I don’t mean to be all holier than thou, but one reason I’ve stuck with not lying for decades is that, if you don’t, you needn’t keep track of stuff like this.
AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Hell yeah. Less to try and keep track of. If you only try to tell the truth then you just have to recall events instead of make them up.
In regards to the text, people are surprisingly open if you’re dating around so long as you make that clear upfront. Yes it will turn some people away, but then you can completely avoid situations like this.
toynbee@piefed.social 2 days ago
If I have to mislead someone, I don’t want to be in that situation. Polyamory isn’t my way, but I don’t see anything wrong with it … So long as everyone involved is aware of, and has agreed to, the arrangement.
I haven’t met many polyamorous couples, but of those I have, the primary issue is that one of the parties has agreed under some form of duress. That’s obviously not okay.
My personal philosophy has always been that everyone involved must provide informed consent and no permanent damage, especially physical, may be caused. There will always be outlying concerns, but those are the things that seem to matter to me.