Uh-oh! Is that gendered double-standarts? Nah, must have been the wind.
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Wander@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
I’m so glad I’m not short. Short guys just get shit on so much. Been at parties where someone just out of nowhere says “You’d be hot if you wasn’t short”. Like imagine that for anything else “you’d be hot if you wasn’t black”. “You’d be hot if you wasn’t in a wheelchair” just getting shit on for genetics.
Same girls also cry murder if somebody says something about a fat girl, which is in their control.
MrKoyun@lemmy.world 4 days ago
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 days ago
Yeah, my idea of being a ‘man’ includes the part where you wingman for your shorter buddies.
Some chick (or dude, or w/e if your bro is amenable) comes on to you at a bar?
Chat them up a bit, introduce them to your unironically very cool and awesome shorter friend, tell them a story about the one time he made you look like an idiot, etc.
Call it anti-chad type bro behvaior, I dunno.
Like, to me, thats what ‘Bros before Hoes’ means.
It means you don’t personally scour the field yourself, there has to be some sense of equity.
Don’t make the problem worse, instead, try to be part of the solution.
BlameTheAntifa@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Own yourself, short king, and people will be drawn to you like magic. It’s not confidence, it’s loving and accepting yourself. That’s all.
Anyone so shallow that they would judge you by your height is someone you don’t want be involved with. As soon as you get to know someone, their appearance ceases to matter and all that is left is the human being underneath. Consider those situations bullets dodged.
BioDriver@lemmy.world 4 days ago
As a short dude myself I wish this were true. I’m confident and have accepted my fate. Yet even when I thought we were grooving and clearly compatible I’d still get hit with “sorry you’re not tall enough,” even when she was like 5’0. I don’t know how the hell I got lucky to get my wife, but she’s clearly the exception not the norm.
SeptugenarianSenate@leminal.space 4 days ago
I think it might come down to some kind of internalized power trip of perceived desirability (to other women perhaps, or maybe their parents or something) by women or girls who promote or attach themselves to those types of frameworks. It’s like a toned down version of people obsessing over boob size, penis size, butt size, facial shape, etc. It’s like there’s no end for some people who go down that route of wanting to be perceived of as perfect in all ways at all times to all people.
It does suck how many people fall into those types of frameworks though. To me it has sometimes felt like, to varying degrees, that my drive to make connections, relate to others, procreate, or seek vindication through others are often at odds with themselves, and that valuing someone for their virtues is not always a typical mode of behavior that people are generally taught to recognize the usefulness of or learn to practice in their own relationships
drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world 4 days ago
I don’t care about being short. The hypocrisy pisses me off. At least you can do something about being fat.
SeptugenarianSenate@leminal.space 4 days ago
I think that your sentiment about fat people is true about 80-90% of the time around the world, but some places literally have food deserts which do not stock healthy options and in other situations even some folks might only be able to afford (financially or executive-functionally) unhealthier options that might either take less time to select or prepare, or cost less money or driving time to procure. I think that’s probably where the downvote is coming from is people who feel unable to escape obesity due to a variety of limiting factors in their day-to-day lives which inhibit them from taking preliminary steps. not to say that going on a walk or taking the extra effort is not within their control, but that some people still struggle with it anyways, sometimes for reasons that seem counterintuitive or like that they should not be a real issue to deal with in practice but wind up being so anyways for some people.
drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Cool. What life style changes should I make to get taller?
Wander@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
I mean yea.
But we need to accept life is harder for short guys. If you just want to get laid, harder. If you want a promotion, harder. If you want to be treated nicer, harder.
All those things you said help and are good. But not not pretend hightism doesn’t exist.
thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 days ago
twink supremacy!!
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
‘There is a form socially acceptable discrimination against a subset of people based around a fundamental intrinsic element of themselves that they are totally incapable of changing.’
‘Chin up, be strong, don’t let the bastards get you down!’
Oh so … not a situation where we maybe need or could benefit from a serious society-wide discussion of this problem, the solution to this form of bigotry is uh… its a personal responsibility.
Got it.
BlameTheAntifa@lemmy.world 2 days ago
@sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com honey, I thought better of you than that. 🥺
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
Maybe you could think about what I say, then.