Comment on Black men dating Asian women: where is the real conversation about racism, family pressure, and emotional risk?

• Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  So I’m personally really struggling because there are no paragraphs. The text itself is completely fine, I think. But when paragraphs are missing, I’m just unable to focus on the text for long and extract meaning from it.

  Usually, you try to group closely related sentences together in a paragraph. It’s a bit of an art but uuuusually relatively obvious. So for example, when I start reading your post, the first group I could identify was the “preamble of stating your intention”, which is

  I’m a Black man in the Pacific Northwest, and I’ve been thinking about interracial dating, especially Black men dating Asian women. I want to be clear: I’m not here to attack Asian people, Asian women, Black women, white people, or anyone else. I’m asking because I’m genuinely trying to understand the conversation better.

  Then it continues with some personal experiences, each of which deserve its own paragraph:

  I’ve dated Asian women before, including a Vietnamese woman I still think highly of because she was mature, open-minded, and not racist. I was young then and my intentions were different then.

  I was offered to marry an Asian woman but I declined; The person of interest behaved one way in front of her parents, another way around her friends and a different way around my friends, and overall she treated me like I was an experiment. I side eyed her a lot.

  Then it gets hard for me, because it seems you make a generic statement about your preferences/thoughts:

  My interest is not based on stereotypes or fetishizing. I’m attracted to different kinds of women, and I try to see people as individuals.

  Which sounds like a separate set of statements which should stand apart from the rest, because then you go into another section about online discourse, but you start with a “But”, which sounds like the statements are related. I did not understand at first what you liking women in a certain way has to do with online discourse that says asian women like white men over black men.

  I think I understand now after taking this long time dissecting it, but that’s kinda what I mean, I had to do that dissecting now which I would have to do much less/none of if the statements were nicely grouped by paragraphs.

  I hope that was clear :)

  I will offer you my opinion about the actual content in another comment.

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  • NeverHomeSick7@thelemmy.club ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I take me my anger out in odd ways too. Thanks for stopping by and reminding me that I’m not perfect. I didn’t read your post and it was fun just skimming over it all together. Freedom of expression. No sweat and like you, I don’t care.

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• DahGangalang@infosec.pub ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I know I’m perfect.

  I can’t help if this is intentional and based or just typo. Either way, thanks for the chuckle.

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  • NeverHomeSick7@thelemmy.club ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    not was supposed to be included but you still got the desired impact…a laugh.

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