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Comment on Discussion Thread 👽 Thursday 16 April 2026

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The bags of cat food and meds are still sitting on their doorstep, and right after I got home their cat came to wait on mine wanting to be let in. FFS. I don’t know if they’re even home. Do they feed this animal? Sent another email telling them I dropped off stuff for their cat and it would be great if they treated him for ringworm as he’s often around wanting to come inside and it’s really contagious. Karen-ish but oh well. It feels terrible ignoring and avoiding him but I’m trying to prioritise my own health until I’m doing better. Still treating my own lesions and trying to eat enough for them to heal. About to shampoo carpet for a second time. Taking antidepressants. Waiting on grief counseling. Holding Melbcat’s urn. Trying to stay warm and calm. Wondering why everything feels so terrible. If I had my way I’d leave this area and not interact with anyone or anything again.

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Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
you are doing great 😊 No need to feel guilty at all.

and you need hugs, not guilt, mmmkay 🫂🫂🫂

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- melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  It sucks because I’m trying to set a boundary but it’s only a neglected cat feeling the consequences.
  
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SituationCake@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
Could it be that they use a back door, or drive in out of garage, so haven’t seen the food? Also not everyone checks their emails everyday, so possible they haven’t see your message either. I guess that’s the optimistic view. If not, maybe you can ask them if they still want to keep the cat. Tell them you can organise a rescue org to collect it for them. It’s sad, but some people just hope their cat will go away if they keep putting it outside.

Good news on the meds and grief counselling. You are taking steps to recover even though it’s really hard. Melbcat would have wanted you to be well. Maybe you can look at it that she’s giving you strength from beyond the rainbow bridge. You got this.

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- melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  I don’t think so, the back is fenced in. Could be they park and walk in tho?
  
  They don’t seem to see a problem with the situation so I may be courting unwanted beef by trying to tell them anything. They said they love him very much so I don’t think they’ll want to give him up. And there are no foster places available through the rescues, I checked.
  
  I just want to mind my biz. But this is genuinely causing problems for me because he waits outside and follows to rub spores up on you (in addition to seeming really neglected) and I’m being forced to interact with people in order to try and deal with it 😢
  
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