I feel obligated to point out that while the label fits, it shouldn’t be a defining personality point.
People often get caught with labels they put there themselves or they were given by others. It’s important to be separate enough from them that you are not constrained by them. If they care enough about finding a label to fit for now, I hope they will continue checking in with themselves on occasion to check if the label still fits.
Much like the feeling of ‘if people are going to call me a villain, I might as well be a villain’. It happens (sometimes quite subtly) for most labels people choose to live by.
that makes sense, i will definitely tell her that. i always check in with myself, as im quite self-aware, like i was bi before but realized it didn’t fit and stopped “forcing” myself to like men
Coskii@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 hours ago
I feel obligated to point out that while the label fits, it shouldn’t be a defining personality point.
People often get caught with labels they put there themselves or they were given by others. It’s important to be separate enough from them that you are not constrained by them. If they care enough about finding a label to fit for now, I hope they will continue checking in with themselves on occasion to check if the label still fits.
Much like the feeling of ‘if people are going to call me a villain, I might as well be a villain’. It happens (sometimes quite subtly) for most labels people choose to live by.
snek_boi@lemmy.ml 3 hours ago
Love your take!
rebeccapatriciastar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 hours ago
that makes sense, i will definitely tell her that. i always check in with myself, as im quite self-aware, like i was bi before but realized it didn’t fit and stopped “forcing” myself to like men