seems like a bad idea if you hate them 50%
like a mix of sunk cost a d stokholms
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Avicenna@programming.dev 21 hours agoDon’t have any kids but I also deduce from my observations that most normal relations with kids is the ones where sometimes you love them to bits and at other times want to give them for adoption. Anything else which overly romanticises having kids has no use other than shame driving people into insanity.
baines@lemmy.cafe 20 hours ago
skarn@discuss.tchncs.de 18 hours ago
Hell no. It’s nowhere near 50/50. In my experience the great moments are far more frequent than the one where you want to defenestrate them.
The relationship with them is however massively unequal, in that you basically owe all the support and they owe you next to nothing (at least at the start).
And unlike with partners and friends, you are supposed to have and maintain authority over them, and foster their growth, often against their whishes.
So it’s a lot of work. But I for instance don’t understand why people get dogs.
Avicenna@programming.dev 19 hours ago
When I said sometimes, did not necessarily mean %50 but agreed if negative feelings are close to majority in such a situation then there is some self reflecting to be made.
altphoto@lemmy.today 14 hours ago
Yeah. You don’t need kids. If you plan in not having kids don’t. You are basically back to square one trying to… Diaper training, walking, talking, playing with others, k-12, graduate with good grades, go to college etc. But one to multiple times and at various stages.
My negative view of the world right now is that we’re just growing citizens to be used in the industrial complex for rich assholes to make money. We don’t get money or benefit financially. And the story ends when it ends. Like there’s no actual Golden goal. One day I may just croak. I think I’m going from painful stomach reasons that rhyme with dancer. But in a few minutes I could also be run over by a car…or worse yet, a honeypot truck…full and spilling. Or nukes.
So there’s no need to have kids. Have sex and enjoy your life to the fullest. That’s pretty much the goal. Don’t waste your life over thinking how to do it. Also don’t go make a living from art. Singing, dancing, painting etc, those are things for rich people. Be practical. If you want to get by do what those people do. If you want to have nice things work hard and sacrifice. But know that you won’t be a billionaire. Nobody can work their ass off and become a billionaire. Even robbing banks won’t get you there. So don’t waste your life trying to do that.