Why would it be abusive in the first place if a 25 year old dates a 35 year old? What is happening with people that now all of the sudden any age gap is treated like this bad bad thing?

If both parties are adults, and both consent, then idgaf if one is 18 and the other 81. Adult is adult, consent is consent, can we fucking please stop judging people for living their lives the way they want to?