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captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 day ago
You let it be obnoxious, observe it dispassionately, and allow it to go once it is finished.
Mine is loud and obnoxious as well. When I meditate it attempts to demand my attention, dredging every thought it can, but I don’t feed it, I don’t encourage it, I observe and allow it to pass. It’s definitely a skill and it takes a lot of practice, but it’s a skill worth learning.
Tonava@sopuli.xyz 17 hours ago
Honestly I don’t understand this at all, nor mediation, really. I observe myself all the time, there’s no “separate voice”, it’s just me observing my thoughts and trying to figure out what the thoughts, emotions and wants are and what’s causing them. If I try to separate myself even more from that observing role, that would mean dissociating, which generally is not considered a mentally healthy state. So am I just thinking in a “wrong way”, is dissociating the point, or do I still just not understand?
It’s very confusing to me. Or, at least that’s I think I should feel about it, I don’t know how am I feeling it or how feeling that actually works since many “emotions” tend to be just learned thoughts to me, which aren’t that difficult to observe then
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
Tbh it’s kinda like intentionally disassociating, but not exactly. A lot of meditation aims for intentionally entering a trance.
A way to think of it may be as the mental equivalent of not feeding in to reflexes. Your body will sometimes act without conscious thought and a person who is in tune with their instincts might follow through on the unconscious actions, this type of meditation is like doing the opposite of that. You allow thoughts to come and go, but you don’t interact with them.
For example you may be trying to meditate and think “oh crap I don’t have dinner planned”, then where normally you might go into planning dinner, here you say “that’s ok, I can plan it when I’m done” and let it be.
If you’ve ever seen the litany against fear from Dune, this style of meditation is basically that but for all thoughts and emotions. Rather than resisting thoughts you allow them to pass over and through you and embrace that you aren’t your thoughts.
That said not all meditation techniques work for everyone. Visualization meditation has some people who love it because it works really easily for us, but others hate it.
I recommend further research if you’re interested in meditation but struggle with it
Tonava@sopuli.xyz 7 hours ago
Thanks for the explanation! I still don’t really understand since that sounds just like normal thinking, but that’s on me lmao. I have to do more research, yes.