Tonava
@Tonava@sopuli.xyz
- Comment on Meanwhile in America 12 hours ago:
Yeah numbers are pretty hard to conceptualize unless you already know what they mean. The addition I would do is put the actual numbers there as well at the same time, so you could get a good reference with an example
- Comment on Why is kindness often viewed as a sign of naïveté? 2 days ago:
There’s also the stupid belief that being mean = intelligent, which kinda overlaps with this. I somewhat blame House MD for that; that show was popular around the time when the idea got normalized in media, and now it just keeps going and is repeated in multiple ways in movies, series… etc. Rick and Morty is another great example of what that type of portrayal can cause, it’s done terrible damage in making it’s target audience associate meanness and assholery with being intelligent.
You can be both kind and intelligent, these qualities are not linked in real life, just like being naïve and kind are not. This means that being mean doesn’t make anyone look any smarter; it just makes you look like a mean asshole. This also seems to escape a lot of people and worsen the hateful shit both irl and online
- Comment on How do you reconcile staying sane while keeping yourself up-to-date with the news? 1 week ago:
I went insane already in the early 2000s, when I realised nobody gave a shit about climate change and ecological destruction and nothing I could say or do made people understand or care. I had a good chuckle when the whole Greta-thing happened and suddenly more people cared, even though we’ve known this is happening for decades now. Too little, too late. There’s always war and genocide going, now we just know it’s happening in real time. Knowing changes nothing, we don’t learn from history, too few care and those who do get in power too rarely for any lasting change to happen.
I was about to kill myself for the first time in 2013 and honestly I should just have done it, it’s the decision I now regret the most in my life. I already died that day anyway, I have just been sort of lingering remnant after that, barely a person anymore. At least my parents could have had a decade to grieve me, now I’ve just dragged more people to care about me and will hurt them as well with my death. My suffering has just gotten worse and worse together with my physical and mental health; sometimes thing not only don’t get better, but just get worse. I don’t even know how I’m still here, probably just out of spite and lack of access to handguns. Eventually I’ll get to see what will manage to end me first, my body or my mind, I don’t even know which one is leading the race.
To conclude my insane and personal rant: not everyone can get a happy ending. Enjoy and do good if you still can
- Comment on My friends! 1 week ago:
Befriending wild animals on their terms is awesome, no matter are they slugs, deer or birds. I’ve been bribing the neighbourhood corvids for about three years now, and gotten a few friends.
- Comment on Everybody gets one [choose wisely] 2 weeks ago:
Hey, finally one without any downsides!
- Comment on They even got their own island 2 weeks ago:
I get it. Never felt really welcome in those spaces, even though I’m trans and very much on the left as well.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Nah, I’m a vile little goblin.
- Comment on True Story 3 weeks ago:
I only care about them because of dr. Doom - and they somehow immediately fucked that up yet again. It takes some serious skills to make such bad decisions, thrice
- Comment on Deserved honestly 3 weeks ago:
It’s just the risk that has to be taken when threatening to bite, if the threat is bluff it’s not wise to try it. I mean it’s probably not wise to try it in the first place, but sometimes idiots just need some bared teeth at them to learn
- Comment on Deserved honestly 3 weeks ago:
Verbal warnings are for when the touching attempts haven’t yet happened. When the hands get close, the first snap is the warning. To have aura of insanity there are no second warnings
- Comment on Deserved honestly 3 weeks ago:
People are prepared for punching or screaming and shit, but usually nobody is prepared to get bit, so probably even if the risk of violence is higher. But getting a chunk out of some jerk has its own satisfaction, they will remember it even if you get hurt worse
- Comment on Deserved honestly 3 weeks ago:
Just quickly lean towards their hand and snap your teeth like you’re going to bite. Works with all sorts of unwanted touching, just be ready to actually bite if they’re also nuts and try again to call your bluff. Even if they get angry they’re much less likely to want to throw hands with the high possibility of getting bit hanging in the air.
The downside is you will look even more insane than with just fork stabs, but on the plus side you will look insane enough people will stay the fuck away in the future too
- Comment on What are your favourite single-player games without much fluff, grinding or difficulty spikes? 5 weeks ago:
Have you tried sandbox-like games, or just games that basically have no story line? Or is the more “adventuring” type of gameplay the one you enjoy the most? Personally I seem to find most games kinda boring outside puzzlegames and sandbox-things, since the typical stuff always has at least some form of grinding and I don’t really like fighting either.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Yeah no, I was ugly before and now I’m an ugly trans person. Being like this is obviously way better than how I was before transitioning for multiple personal reasons, but it’s not some magical miracle cure to looks. I think people say that because transitioning makes them feel so much better about themselves, so they stop perceiving and judging themselves so negatively. The boost in confidence probably makes them seem “hotter” too, since people tend to perceive confidence to be attractive after all
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
I didn’t honestly even think about that. Being from the nordics means throwing them outside is the same as killing them most of the year
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
They’re actually pretty beneficial (eating other more annoying bugs and all that) and usually not harmful to human residents in any way (except if you live in Australia). Killing them because “aah yuck spiders!” isn’t a good enough reason to many
- Comment on Some people have it worse 2 months ago:
I’ve never understood the argument that you shouldn’t complain about the environment you interact with because other people interact with worse environments.
I call this the “children of Africa” -argument. Basically, it’s an argument that you can never complain about anything or do anything to better something, because “some kids are starving in Africa”; someone always has it worse. It’s purpose is to belittle and brush aside either the problem worded out or the person saying it (or both).
- Comment on What's the worst spelling you've seen? 2 months ago:
The downside is, neither can any adult. I think the first name limitations should only apply to kids; legal adults should be able to change their names to whatever they want, no matter how stupid it is. It could only hurt themselves after all