Comment on Do boys who had affectionate mothers growing up become more "gentle"?
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 week agoIt sounds like you may be deep in the pocket of that oppression
It’s called being in a Chinese family… the “overton window” of what’s “normal” is different
I think their way of showing “love” is not exactly by physical affection. Like the concept of a “Chinese father cuddling their children” is not even a thing… (I don’t think so)
It’s more like materialistic (money) and other stuff like driving kids to school, etc…
And oddly enough… my mom sucks at cooking (taste bad lmao) so I remember my dad cooked a lot
And a lot of household stuff… like broken things that needs to fixed…
Also like helping out with the family bussiness… which I also did a lot… but mom kinda overlooks my contributions… :(
I mean maybe just “Chinese culture” is weird…
Oh btw I NEVER SAW MY PARENTS KISS 🤷♂️
I asked my mom about it and she say they do it when I’m not looking?
press x to doubt (it’s an arranged marriage lol)
Idk if they even fuck, except like that two times to procreate… their room is open lol…
scarabic@lemmy.world 1 week ago
As it happens, I am married to someone raised in a Chinese family so I hear you and am familiar with a lot of the dynamic. We just all about it very openly as an unhealthy and even abusive way to grow up.
I remember I got promoted at work and one of the VPs above me sent me an email saying “we’re proud of you.” He happened to be Asian. And my wife was floored that he actually said this.