Consequences is just a wild thing to say.
When I get a cold no one jumps on my shit for having to live with the consequences of going outside. They say sorry to hear you’re sick feel better
STDs are not 100% prevented by condoms, and STIs are not prevented at all. The more sex partners you have, the bigger the odds you’ll have consequences.
Toys as substitute to what, physical contact? Having a partner?
arrow74@lemmy.zip 9 hours ago
Mika@piefed.ca 6 hours ago
Actions have consequences, what a weird concept. Being outside in the cold in light clothes have consequences with increased chance to catch cold.
Nobody would tell you to live with the consequences cause it’s not permanent, several days at home and you are fine.
arrow74@lemmy.zip 5 hours ago
Hahaha this guy thinks cold weather causes colds
The only way to 100% prevent colds is to be around other people as little as possible. If you chose to be around people you choose to get colds.
Sounds ridiculous, but that’s the logic you’ve used
thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 hours ago
aren’t STDs and STIs the same thing???
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 hours ago
Sort of, kind of, its a bit complicated.
www.verywellhealth.com/std-vs-sti-5214421
STDs start as sexually transmitted infections (STIs). An infection occurs when a sexually transmitted bacterium, virus, or microbe enters the body and starts multiplying. Once established, the infection can develop into a disease, known as an STD.
Although this distinction can be made, most health authorities, like the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), use the terms interchangeably. The American Sexual Health Association mentions a shift toward using “STI,” but there’s no consensus in the medical and public health community.3
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STIs are infections caused by bacteria, viruses, or parasites.6 They’re usually transmitted during sexual activity through an exchange of bodily fluids or skin-to-skin contact where the infection is active.
STIs can also be transmitted through non-sexual activities involving the exchange of bodily fluids. For instance, sharing needles can spread the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). Kissing on the mouth can transmit some STIs, though it generally poses a low risk for most.
STDs are diseases that result from STIs. All STDs start out as infections. Pathogens, which are disease-causing organisms such as viruses and bacteria, enter the body and begin multiplying. When these pathogens disrupt normal body functions, they produce diseases.
It’s important to note that some STIs may never develop into diseases. For example, most human papillomavirus (HPV) cases go away on their own without causing health problems. However, HPV can produce genital warts or cervical cancer, which are diseases.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 hours ago
… Or you can have sex with people who both use protection, and … go to the doctor at least once or twice a year, and include an STD/STI screen in their checkups.
You know, actually knowing the people you’ve had sex with?
I’ve had sex with between 10 and 20 different partners.
Some flings, some serious relationships.
Did this with all of them.
No STDs/STIs, for any of us.
Even if you do have certain STIs/STDs, there are ways that you can greatly reduce the risk of transmission, manage things.
I bring up toys because you bring up injuries, games, and anime.
There are a lot of different kinds of toys and other sex aides that can make sex easier and/or less likely for anybody to injure themselves, for a wide variety of potential injuries and body types, sex positions.
Also, while sure toys are not the same thing as a partner, I’d argue that they’re more sexually satisfying than just looking at game or anime, and there’s a good deal of evidence that its unhealthy to not orgasm at least semi-regularly, when you’re younger, for both your mind and body.
And also, toys can be used by or with partners, even remotely, and we are now at the point where sex toys essentially are or can be video game controllers, basically, can output uh, sensations, and can also input your ‘commands’.
Mika@piefed.ca 6 hours ago
You can orgasm without a partner. Same goes for toys. That’s not sex. It’s not even unusual for asexual people do all that.
Limiting amount of partners to single digits or even just one reduces the odds of issues drastically. It’s not a religious thing.
Y’all look like those teens that got to live separately from their parents to start eating sweets 100% time instead of normal food cause it’s tastier. Fun for a while. Bad idea in the long run.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 hours ago
And you can orgasm safely with a partner, if you are educated about sex, understand your own body, and follow best practices, and those involved are honest with each other.
And yes, its not even unusual for asexual people to do that.
And I would argue it is generally much, muuuuch more interesting and enjoyable to orgasm with a person, who at the very least is excited by the prospect of being part of that, than it is to jerk off or flick your bean on your own.
Don’t think I ever said it was religious thing, so uh, sure, ok.
And … I mean yes, less sex you have with people is strictly speaking less likely to land you with an STI STD, extremely broadly.
But safe sex is a thing, and it isn’t really that hard to do between two moderately intelligent, trustworthy, consenting adults.
Its also pretty easy to avoid an unwanted pregnancy, unless you or the place you live has some sort of ‘religious thing’ impeding that.
… I’m in my 30s.
I’ve had boring sex and extremely interesting sex, and that’s actually not been significantly linked to me and my partner’s age… it has much more to do with sexual compatibility, being into the same kinds of things, communication styles.
I’ve also just been single, as in alone, without any sex, for spans of years between me being 16 and how old I am now.
Personally, I would not advocate just trying to max out your body count ASAP just for the sake of doing that.
I’ve just had a number of relationships that lasted for a while, were good for a while, didn’t work out in the end, mixed with some periods of just dating around very casually for a while, mixed with some periods of just focusing on myself.
You’re thinking of someone who is 18 and has already had 10 to 20 sexual partners, someone who is in their 20s and has had 50 to 80 partners or something like that.
Yeah, sure, that’s maybe getting to the point where you are significantly impacting your ability to long term pair bond with a person.
But those kinds of people are actually pretty darn rare, roughly less than 5% of even the most promiscuous Western societies.
What is much, much more common is for people to greatly exagerate the number of partners they’ve had, because either they think it makes them sound cool, or they’re in a social group which praises that, or both.
But even still: Some people just don’t want a permanent partner, never did and never will, just like how some people don’t ever want to have kids or start a family.