You know what, I’ll bite.

I’m honestly pretty bummed out. With the recent changes to Discord I’ve decided enough is enough and I’m dropping it. Unfortunately my entire social life is currently on discord as life and distance make it hard to meet up. When I broached making a group somewhere else, the general consensus was that keeping in touch or potentially gaming together wasn’t enough to be worth it. One of my oldest friends it’s also dropping discord but will not be joining another platform with me. We’d been distant since I got married and this very much feels like his effort to officially cut ties.

So here I am, in my early 30’s and again facing the disillusion of my social circle. Something I’ve gone through on 4 previous occasions and each time it gets harder to start new because more people have either already established their group or committed to not having one.

I really want to be part of a community, but where am I supposed to meet people with interests like mine when the baseline for people into niche hobbies, diy, secret societies, goblincore, and all my other interests is that they’re cronically anti-social and only care yo exist online?

I’d totally be the guy maintaining the group matrix, hosting our streaming server, putting out weekly news letters, getting people together to play magic in weird venues, scouting out hole in the wall restaurants. I live for things like that but what’s the point of it if the only friend I have is my spouse who I can just talk to when I do the thing? You can’t play a curated cards against humanity set or custom fallout themed catan with two people.

How do you make friends?