Saying ‘it’s a you problem’ when someone doesn’t understand just means ‘I am a self-important asshole who wants people to take my half-assed mumblings as important because they come from me, not because of their content.’ Being an asshole is definitely a you problem. Have a nice time talking to yourself as well.
What others are trying to say is that maybe you should stop being a self important asshole and take the time an courtesy to try and read what they actually wrote.
What they wrote was entirely understandable to me as well. Try using context and critical thinking to parse through it, im sure you’ll get it!
So, when I’m driving, it’s fine to drive wherever I want? I can just expect others to accommodate my disregard for established norms and rules of the road? I mean, people have legs and cars of their own so they can expend the effort to predict my movements and drive/walk accordingly, right? And then if any of them complain because they don’t want me to dump that extra effort on them, that makes THEM the self-important assholes, right? And if I call them stupid for complaining and asking me to drive within the limits of the broadly accepted rules of the road, especially given the readily available modern tools that could help me do that, I’m not being an asshole, right? I’m totally in the moral right then, aren’t I?
If you are speaking, it is reasonable to assume you want to be understood, (otherwise why say anything?) but if you choose to ignore basic rules of communication, and then refuse to clarify when someone asks, you don’t want to be understood, or to communicate; you’re just making noise. The person I originally responded to was just making noise, as useful in a comments section as someone walking into an in-person conversation and speaking in a language they made up at home. I read what they wrote. Then I read it again. Then I opened the comment thread and post to see if it made more sense in context. I could see a vague form of meaning to which they might be alluding, but not a definite concept, and one of the most basic rules in life is ‘the one who dumps work on others simply for the sake of avoiding work for themselves is the asshole.’ If you do it out of carelessness, you can try to compensate by taking the work back (explaining what you meant) but they chose to double down. And now, for some reason, you’ve taken up their defense? Are you failing in critical thinking or/and are you a troll?
You should check the usernames. I was just letting you know that the only person that didn’t understand what the other poster meant was YOU. As a 3rd party I completely understood what they meant in their original post. Meaning it is a “you problem”. That was also why I mentioned them by name so you could understand that I was a separate person that had zero issues understanding what they meant.
johnyreeferseed@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
I had no issue understanding what he hypnicjerk said. So I’m gonna agree with him that’s it’s a you problem
Sunsofold@lemmings.world 1 month ago
Saying ‘it’s a you problem’ when someone doesn’t understand just means ‘I am a self-important asshole who wants people to take my half-assed mumblings as important because they come from me, not because of their content.’ Being an asshole is definitely a you problem. Have a nice time talking to yourself as well.
Zoot@reddthat.com 1 month ago
What others are trying to say is that maybe you should stop being a self important asshole and take the time an courtesy to try and read what they actually wrote.
What they wrote was entirely understandable to me as well. Try using context and critical thinking to parse through it, im sure you’ll get it!
Sunsofold@lemmings.world 1 month ago
So, when I’m driving, it’s fine to drive wherever I want? I can just expect others to accommodate my disregard for established norms and rules of the road? I mean, people have legs and cars of their own so they can expend the effort to predict my movements and drive/walk accordingly, right? And then if any of them complain because they don’t want me to dump that extra effort on them, that makes THEM the self-important assholes, right? And if I call them stupid for complaining and asking me to drive within the limits of the broadly accepted rules of the road, especially given the readily available modern tools that could help me do that, I’m not being an asshole, right? I’m totally in the moral right then, aren’t I?
If you are speaking, it is reasonable to assume you want to be understood, (otherwise why say anything?) but if you choose to ignore basic rules of communication, and then refuse to clarify when someone asks, you don’t want to be understood, or to communicate; you’re just making noise. The person I originally responded to was just making noise, as useful in a comments section as someone walking into an in-person conversation and speaking in a language they made up at home. I read what they wrote. Then I read it again. Then I opened the comment thread and post to see if it made more sense in context. I could see a vague form of meaning to which they might be alluding, but not a definite concept, and one of the most basic rules in life is ‘the one who dumps work on others simply for the sake of avoiding work for themselves is the asshole.’ If you do it out of carelessness, you can try to compensate by taking the work back (explaining what you meant) but they chose to double down. And now, for some reason, you’ve taken up their defense? Are you failing in critical thinking or/and are you a troll?
johnyreeferseed@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
You should check the usernames. I was just letting you know that the only person that didn’t understand what the other poster meant was YOU. As a 3rd party I completely understood what they meant in their original post. Meaning it is a “you problem”. That was also why I mentioned them by name so you could understand that I was a separate person that had zero issues understanding what they meant.