Comment on The Ritual Shaming of the Woman at the Coldplay Concert
atrielienz@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Here’s the thing. She knew. And while it’s none of my business, if you’re going to cheat, you gotta be prepared to be caught and shamed. Humans being what they are.
trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world 4 days ago
On some level I agree with you, but there’s a difference between the usual being caught and shamed and being publicly crucified on national television so people that you’ve never heard of recognize you and know what you did.
atrielienz@lemmy.world 4 days ago
If she were a celebrity would we feel the same?
Because really what it comes down to is she knowingly helped a high profile person cheat and got caught. I’m not saying she deserves it. I’m not saying it’s a good thing. To me this is on par with the whole Monica Lewinsky thing.
I personally bear this woman no ill will. But I also don’t really think we should be expected to have empathy for something she did to herself because she couldn’t think ahead to what the potential repercussions of her actions were.
nogooduser@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I would, yes. She’s done absolutely nothing that warrants this treatment.
The only people who should have any ill will towards her are those that are directly affected by her actions. That should be the case even if she was famous before this.
atrielienz@lemmy.world 3 days ago
No. No. I think you misunderstood. I’m not saying people should have ill will toward her. I’m saying that the ill will is an expected part of how society functions when a person gets notoriety for doing something wrong.
If she had been outed by the papers in a less public way, people she doesn’t know who we’re not affected by her actions would still be judging her.
Most people would judge the average person who got caught cheating if they knew about it.
She had to know going into her relation with a married man that there was the potential to get caught. She had to know it would be unlikely to receive anything but vitriol from people who’ve been cheated on. She went along with it anyway.
There’s a possibility that because of the power dynamic between her and a man who was her boss, she was taken advantage of. That’s why I brought up and compared her to Monica Lewinsky. However I don’t have energy to waste on worrying about what ifs.
I don’t follow the story and didn’t even really remember her until this post popped up. I can’t even tell you what her name is without googling it. I’d wager most people are equally ambivalent. It’s most likely a very loud minority of people who remember and are giving her shit about this.