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You shouldnt have to rehearse the perfect line that is impossible to be offended by just to talk to a stranger. We aren’t robots. We dont always hit 100% of the time. We stumble and overextend. Expectations have gotten out of hand.

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arctanthrope@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
you are allowed to stumble on the first line. and it may come off poorly. and if it does the other person is perfectly valid for not wanting to engage further. therefore if you want the other person to continue to engage, you should try not to come off poorly. this isn’t some newfangled social phenomenon, it’s how basic human interaction has worked for millennia

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- Rekorse@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  You did a thing where you almost said something but then turned around and didnt.
  
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RumorsOfLove@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Tai Chi is all about not overextending.

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- Rekorse@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  How does that apply here?
  
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  - RumorsOfLove@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Like there is a practice to maintaining self-control and it works on all levels of the metaphor. Emotional, comfort level, social, whatever. Like I totally agree with you that total perfection is not the goal. But usually its good to demonstrate some composure.
    
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