Comment on Anon gets his life in order
peteypete420@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Hey, if two (or more) people are making each other happy and doing well, right on. Yea that "traditional " style of relationship isnt for me. Especially the idea of withholding conversation or sex as punishment. Well, if it was kink minded then maybe, but I digress.
Anywhoots, being in a happy stable relationship certainly helped me get some of my act together. Hopefully i wont fully come apart the seams right now.
blarghly@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
What if the withholding is driven purely by emotion rather than being premeditated?
peteypete420@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Like, someone is angry, so they dont talk for awhile? They are sad, so maybe no fuckey tonight? Etc. Thats fine. I dont mean to say they should always be talking or fucking.
Withholding to punish, or to steer the partner a certain way is what seems problamatic.
blarghly@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yeah, like that.
My point being, what we end up saying is that two people could do exactly the same thing, but it is only acceptable if there is no premeditation and everything is completely emotional.
peteypete420@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I feel like we are making the same point