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ScientifficDoggo@lemmy.zip 4 days agoI think the implied weirdness is that, if you’re scared, why even agree to the date in the first place?
Comment on Has this ever happened to you?
ScientifficDoggo@lemmy.zip 4 days agoI think the implied weirdness is that, if you’re scared, why even agree to the date in the first place?
notarobot@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
I do not know if you noticed, but people want to date. She probably want to go AND be safe.
ScientifficDoggo@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
Well yeah, but bringing an extra for a dinner date is weird. I’ve brought extra people along to meet the person I’ll be eating with and confirm my location. Having an extra person suddenly in the date dynamic kills the dynamic.
notarobot@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
Then just say no and don’t go in a date with her. If her safety is such a big inconvenience for you, it’s not a good match.
It’s ONE date. They are just trying to make sure you are not a rapist. I’d say they are likely to leave as soon as things look like they are going smoothly. Next date she shouldn’t be there. If she is invited again then don’t go. If on a second date she is still not sure if you are dangerous but wants to go out anyway, something might be wrong
ScientifficDoggo@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
Okay, let’s take a step back. I never said it’s an inconvenience, i just said it’s weird. Please don’t assume things about me just because we disagree about something.
I even mentioned alternatives I’ve personally used to ensure my safety AND not change the date dynamic. Everyone should ensure their own safety, and if that’s what it takes for some people then fine but lets not tack on assumptions to force a narrative.
It’s weird to have someone sit in on a dinner date to me. Full stop. Am i gonna trip about it? Probably not. You do you boo.