I’m just a bit older, but been there.
I could never get past it though. I have a daughter too, and it really just takes one experience where they really remind you of your kid and… yeah, I don’t think I can do this y’all.
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QueenHawlSera@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
I’m 34 dating a 25 year old myself. Which I checked, it passes the “Half your age plus 7” test
(34 / 2 = 17 + 7 = 24) Sometimes I still feel weird about it though
BarbecueCowboy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com 23 hours ago
Half plus seven is just a rough rule of thumb, that tries to capture some different concepts at play.
Personally, I never liked dating across major life milestone ages like 22, college graduation. The mid 20’s are just an important phase in developing one’s personality and sense of self, and being outside of the school environment is an important transition to learn. So when I was 30 I had a hard cutoff at 25, as I didn’t want to be with anyone who still identified with being a recent college student.
I felt like a very different person as between 18 and 22, and between 22 and 26. But 26 wasn’t that different from 30, and 30 to 35 only saw some slight changes. It’d be hypothetical because I was already in a committed relationship after 32 or so, but when I was 35 my cutoff probably would’ve been late 20’s, and when I was 40 my cutoff would’ve probably been around 30.
ethaver@kbin.earth 1 day ago
@ 30 22 feels waaay too damn young. tf am I even gonna talk to this person about? I'm a decade in to a high stress high reliability industry. I'm starting to get Greg hairs! I make jokes about all the child rapists I met while working for the state! Too much happened in that 8 years between us. Too damn much.
Senseless@feddit.org 1 day ago
God damn it Greg!
AlexanderTheDead@lemmy.world 14 hours ago
Yeah, at 27, 22 was already like too young for me. Let alone 20.
seliaste@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 hours ago
I have a 30-22 relationship rn (I’m 22) and we have like everything in common. Maybe it helps that we’re also both nerdy autistic asexual trans girls with an obsession for solo videogames