Comment on Anon asks out a friend
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 1 week ago
Setting aside the ick of valuing someone my how many (or how few) partners they’ve had…
Sounds to me like Anon is a “beta”, she was looking for an “alpha” (these would be my impression of her opinion)… When all the “Alphas” rejected her, or used her as a cumdumpster and left, and she started to lose the looks she thought would land her an “Alpha”, she finally considered Anon as a possible partner.
As horrible as that is, rejecting someone based on body count is pretty shitty. If the tables were turned and Anon had a massive body count, more people would think they’re a stud more than anything.
The double standard is horrid and unacceptable.
I don’t even remember my body count. I stopped keeping track after 12 or so? It’s just not important, and as long as you’re having safe, protected intimate times, who gives a shit?
shawn1122@sh.itjust.works 1 week ago
He brings up number of sexual partners but I’m not sure that’s the real issue here.
The bigger issue is that he’s made to feel like the last or backup choice.
She should have realized how that would come across and its completely reasonable for him to say no based on vibes here.
We are only getting one side of the story though.
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 6 days ago
Yup. We are. I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve made some pretty extensive assumptions here, and I don’t have nearly enough information to say either way.
I don’t think we’ll ever get any more info than we have here.
My main concern with the body count comments is… If that’s not the primary motivation for his decision, why bring it up at all? Seems unnecessary.
Bringing it up just makes me think it’s more important to Anon than he leads everyone to believe in the first part of his post.
There’s a whole thing about body count in simp/FA type groups, that having a nontrivial body count somehow invalidates a person. By bringing it up, at all, it makes me think that Anon is a part of that group, or at least catering to them for attention, which might be just as bad or worse.
My official standpoint is that both Anon and the girl are terrible people. Good on Anon for not being that person’s backup plan, but the reasons for rejecting the request are in question… And make me think Anon isn’t a good person either.
shawn1122@sh.itjust.works 6 days ago
I agree they both seem like very superficial people, especially with his body count comment. Its unfortunately common when we’re young, hopefully they can learn to see deeper as they get wiser with time.
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 6 days ago
The whole thing reminds me of many AITA threads that were clearly terrible people trying to justify their behavior against other terrible people.
I dunno. I will never have any further information than this so I won’t bother with it anymore.
Thank you for the discourse. I hope you have a good day.