I think I have met her on her own territory. I make her pick the time. She has never shown up at the time she picks. I have spoken to her about how this annoys me. She apologises and says she will do better next time, but has not. I agree, I think I do need to have a proper sit down conversation with her. Reasons she has been late include the game she plays having a new update (she sent me a screenshot of her playing the game at the time I was waiting for her at the train station, after I messaged her asking if she was on her way), and sleeping in due to her wack sleeping schedule. She has even said herself that her sleep schedule is not conducive to the demands of daily life. You resting your back sounds like a pretty valid reason to me. I’m sure that being the person you are, would inform people you were going to meet up with about this or give them a heads up if you were going to be late when you could. I’m sorry for making you feel guilty, and I hope that people aren’t judging you for resting in bed. She doesn’t really have any other friends that she meets up with regularly besides me. Anyone else she sees is because of classes or are online friends that she has never met in person. Like a lot of us, she lost most people from high school except for me and one of our other friends who lives interstate. I think she may have ADHD, and so do I, but that doesn’t mean she can’t be on time at all. I think the next time I see her, I will tell her I will only be available for a particular amount of time, based on the time she’s set, and if she’s not available then, then we will not hang out. She has a procrastination problem with studies similar to mine and that stresses her out. She doesn’t care for cleanliness, and I agree, I shouldn’t judge her based on that. We were raised differently. Also the cigarettes. Not my business. That was judgy. I commented on that to give context about her shit living situation. Most of our hangouts involve doing things she wants to do. The last few times we’ve hung out, we have played games together. I am terrible at video games, and she has outright told me that she wants me to play games with her so that she gets matched with easier players. I always go with her to get food, even when I’m not hungry. I go with her to run errands, wait in food outlets whilst she orders food at odd times, and when she meets up with people to buy and sell collectibles. Pretty much everything we do together is something we both want to do, mixed in with things she wants to do.