I hear you. I was always a skinny kid, but I went through some bad, traumatic shit in my early twenties and ballooned up - from 105 to 177 as a 5’0" woman. Being obese sucked and I’ve worked super hard to get the weight off and keep it off. But in the meantime the HAES / fat acceptance thing took off and now I feel like I’m living in bizarro world. I hated being obese for so many reasons and can’t imagine how people can convince themselves that it’s okay to just remain like that. I mean, to each their own, but they’re setting themselves up for disease and disability. I think it’s really sad.
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jwmgregory@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 hours agoi’m someone who grew up fat/ morbidlyobese and is now 160 lbs at 6’0” height, this is real af and talking about weight with anyone now pisses me tf off usually.
people are fat as shit now and it’s entirely normalized. you can’t even say being fat is bad for you without someone asserting that it’s possible to be both overweight and healthy at the same time. it’s not. being overweight at all, let alone fucking obese or morbidly obese, is literally up there with smoking and drinking on the shaving years off your life scale. no one should be made fun of for their body but portions of the fat acceptance movement went too far deluding people into risking their health, and corporate america has been feeding us all literal high calorie slop that is as addicting as fucking drugs.
virtually everyone is at least somewhat overweight now in america, most people are obese, with the rest of the west trending towards the same fate. it’s a gigantic fucking public health crisis. i’ll talk about how i need to lose 10-20 lbs and people will say “tHaT wOuLd mAkE yOu lOoK sIcKlY ThO!?!”… 1. who the fuck cares? it’s my body and idk why vanity is such a big factor for people, anyway. idgaf if being a normal weight for my height would make me look “sickly” in a country like this 2. and it really fucking wouldn’t! i don’t have an eating disorder or anything, and i’m smart enough to objectively measure and maintain my own body. i could stand to lose a few pounds of fat and go to the gym!
i’m sitting here having to have been made fun of my whole childhood for being fat and now ive grown up into bizarro world where everyone is overweight and i’m the weird one again for trying to maintain my body. fuck you guys. my kungfu is better than yours. lmao jk but being fat as a kid is seriously traumatic. not wanting to take your shirt off at pools really sucks and is a part of it but there’s worse stuff. i still don’t really like my body bc i probably will need to have loose skin removal surgery over my torso to look normal. not sure, will try bulking up a bit first but have never been a gymbro or anything like that. maybe it’ll turn out okay.
thanks for coming to the local trauma dump haveawonderfulnightcomeagain.
klemptor@startrek.website 4 hours ago
Snowclone@lemmy.world 4 hours ago
the data is out, and apparently, calling someone a fat piece of shit, and them believing you, ISN’T an effective wight lost strategy. I guess you gotta care about yourself to work on yourself? so. there’s really no point in telling fat people they are bad and should feel bad.
Matthew@midwest.social 3 hours ago
Work on your reading comprehension buddy
Proprietary_Blend@lemmy.world 4 hours ago
Wut
Matthew@midwest.social 4 hours ago
I feel heard for the first time. I’m 6’3" and ~165lbs these days and I hear so consistently I’m skin and bones. As if I don’t still have a healthy gut/spare tire.
I’m mostly surprised you didn’t touch on clothes not being made for what used to be the most standard of body sizes.
Know you aren’t alone if nothing else.
ifItWasUpToMe@lemmy.ca 1 hour ago
You mean you don’t like t-shirts made with the dimensions of a cardboard box? Interesting.