I had a similar change of perspective when I became a parent. We do our best to raise our kids to be the best people they can be. But, if we want to do normal people things and that requires some screen time, so be it. I know what’s going on with my kids and idgaf what others think.
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Korne127@lemmy.world 15 hours agoI used to think exactly that and judge that heavily, but after my sister became a mother, we talked about this and she said essentially, that you don’t know them, you don’t know the day they’ve had and what they have done all day and what happened before. And that having a child is so hard that sometimes you just need to do things that are maybe not optimal, like giving them coke or letting them be on an iPad in public to avoid another hour of screaming, but that doesn’t mean they are not doing super much before. Because everybody has a breaking point and you cannot be perfect, but you don’t know the arguments or deals or time spent earlier, and sometimes it’s necessary to also keep care of yourself and relax a bit when you’re done.
HybridSarcasm@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
tatterdemalion@programming.dev 7 hours ago
We might not know the parents, but we do know that iPads didn’t exist in the past and people still managed to raise kids.
DmMacniel@feddit.org 14 hours ago
mhm yes, because instant gratification is always a trait to foster…
I saw it in the development of my nephew that he gets so easily frustrated and also scared to break anything, because toys like the iPad are expensive as heck (and when its broken it can’t give him any dopamine shots).
So we get highly temperamental kids that have super short attention spans. Hurrah for dumbification of your civilisation. Two hails for our corporate overlords!
volvoxvsmarla@sopuli.xyz 14 hours ago
Congrats, you perfectly missed the point of the message you replied to.
Maybe your nephew gets the iPad all the time and that messed up his frustration tolerance. Ok. You might have a closer inside to how he is parented. When you see someone outside with a kid on an iPad you cannot know these things about them. Whatever it looks like to you, you’re judging strangers based on a one point observation.