The best parents are often the quirkiest. I’d say your dad’s actions have been a bit more concerning than quirky. But that’s not your load to carry.

You are his daughter and your concern should be your relationship with him. And it sounds like he’s a truly fantastic parent. You do not owe anyone else anything other than the best you that you can be, and it seems like your parents have helped make a very good you.

If anyone else wants to make the sins of the father be piled onto the daughter, you should do all you can to avoid that person. It sounds like your father’s character has given you a unique perspective from which you can draw better choices. And that is your positive takeaway and gift to give to anyone else who crossed his path.

In summary, your dad has made his own choices and everyone else can hold him accountable to that. So, just be a fantastic daughter and a wonderful person, and use that to contribute positively to your community. Don’t get bogged down by what your father has done—if anything, you can help lift people affected by your father, but only if it brings you joy.