Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life?
vestmoria@linux.community 4 days agoThere is no need to go for confrontation, asking why someone talks so little might just be a way of trying to include them in a group or getting to know them, and it sounds like OP just responds as hostile as possible.
why is answering a question with another question confrontational? this is a boundaries issue.
I can’t believe I have to explain this, but here it goes: if people talk much or less is purely subjective: what to introverted A is too much is for extroverted B too little.
extroverted B asked from his subjective point of view, introverted A simply answered from his also subjective point of view.
Why is this confrontational to you?
it sounds like OP just responds as hostile as possible.
wrong again, I calmly state that question. You seem to believe I start yelling at them or looking at them as if I wanted to hurt them.
my main question to you is this: why is answering a question with another question confrontational? this is about boundaries.
Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 days ago
You’re doing what they do to you back to them. This is not hard to understand. You don’t like it, so they don’t like it. You’re essentially “proving your point” by taking revenge. The only thing they hear is that you’re taking revenge.
If it was about boundaries, you could say something along the lines “I don’t like these kind of questions, I am perfectly comfortable being quiet, with this question you make it sound like something is wrong about it. I get this question all the time and I don’t want to answer it anymore.”
vestmoria@linux.community 4 days ago
absolutely. I answer a question with another question. Keep playing stupid games, you’ll keep getting stupid prizes.
then why do they start it? I’m never the one pestering anyone about why they’re blond, tall, fat…