It happens, I’m not denying that.

But the cure is worse than the poison. The term primes people to see it where it isn’t there, and that’s extraordinarily toxic.

Call them a misogynist and be done with it. I know it when I see it. You know it when you see it.

It’s like man spreading. It’s ok to be comfortable. It’s not ok to push into other people’s personal space. If you’re alone on a bench, who gives a fuck. If you want to signal “I’d prefer no one sit next to me”, that’s fine until someone sits next to you. Then you’re an asshole or you’re not, we don’t need extra words to gender niche behaviors

Words are perception. Labeling a thing primes you to see it. These overly specific, gender based labels are harmful

It literally makes the world worse for everyone involved to create subcategories of asshole behavior based on gender dynamics