Comment on What age gap is too big of an age gap if someone's in their early 30's?

bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• msage@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I can’t imagine a 22yo with 30yo.

  You are going through such different stages in your lives.

  One is most likely still in school, the other may be trying to run their own busuiness, or strive for children. There may be common grounds, but at 22 I would not suggest settling down.

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  • bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Honestly, I’ve met so many people at either age or older who were at either stage in their life. A 22 yo can be done with their training and fully working, even having their own business while a 30 yo is still trying to find themselves.

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    • msage@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Sure, but how common is that? There are exceptions to every rule.

      But still at 25 your brain is not fully formed, and as such you may consider some wilder ideas.

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      • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        very common in major cities.

        maybe less so in rural areas where people don’t go to college.

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  • Noodle07@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I’m 30, I feel like so far behind peers I could relate with a 22yo girl I’m sure

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    • msage@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I’ve known a guy, dated an 18yo while being ~33-35…

      We sat down and talked about the relationship.

      Me: dude, it’s fine if you tell me it’s all about sex, just please tell me what do you really get out of that relationship?

      Dude: no you don’t get it, she’s so mature for her age, we have common things, we talk a lot

      Me: what do you talk about? do you talk about her homework?

      Dude: noo, we talk about life and such

      Couple weeks later dude is single. At least then he admitted it was just about the sex.

      The gap was wider than 22 and 30, but still, it’s too much.

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      • Noodle07@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        18 is definetly too low, they still look like children to me I agree, but 22-23? If they work they arent behind me in their life. But yeah the gap is wide.

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  • morphballganon@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    22yo women date 30yo+ men all the time

    Maybe not so much the other way around

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