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DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 3 days ago
You poor kids. Your parents screwed you up.
I’ve read advice that people need to continuously ask for consent DURING the act, just to be sure. This is stupid advice. Once you’re both naked in the same room, and no one laughed or ran away, you’re good. If you’re now thinking up exceptions to this, that’s why you’ll never get laid.
OTH, no one should have kids, so it’s probably all for the best.
Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I think you may have misunderstood that advice. Consent during sex doesn’t mean you keep asking ‘do you still want to sex’ over and over. It means that you make sure everything you do is something you both want. Theres like a million different things you can do together when you have sex, how would you know which of those the other wants? It doesn’t even have to be verbal, giving and paying attention to non verbal cues is a type of ongoing consent too.
And I can’t believe I have to say this, but: Someone being naked and in the same room as you doesn’t give you permission to do whatever the fuck you want to them.
FinnFooted@lemmy.world 3 days ago
For real. Like, if you have two brain cells to rub together, you observe body language and mix checking in on your partner with dirty talk. It’s not like “are you still consenting?! Do you still like me?!” Literally there’s porn lines you can copy like “yeah, you like that?” or “I want you to beg for it” or “tell/show me what you like” or whatever is up your alley. Deliver it with a modicum of confidence and its not weird.