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Machinist@lemmy.world 3 days agoDamn skippy! Your old man is taking care of you, even if the delivery was rough.
If your hobbies/pastime are mostly gaming, don’t talk about it much other than a casual mention. Do talk about books, if you read and she’s receptive. Assuming US, try and stay away from politics, unless your dad tells you her political orientation; and even then just insult Trump. Talk about pets, animals, hiking/camping/outdoors. Some science talk can be good. Let her lead.
Kiss her when she gives you the look, you’ll know the look. It will make you very nervous. Do it anyways. Go with her when she asks, “you want to get out of here?” Suggest her place if you need to.
When it gets down to the get down, let her lead. Check in and ask if she likes what you’re doing. It’s okay to be inexperienced, she’ll be expecting it and will accept it as long you’re teachable. If you pop early, laugh, make fun of yourself. Very important, say something like, "welp, at least I’m 22, gimme like 15 minutes and we can try again.’
MeThisGuy@feddit.nl 2 days ago
they probably don’t know the look… I would ask her if it’d be OK to kiss her.
no-one wants to be unwelcomely violated
Machinist@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Lemmy sometimes. It’s like a basic human thing. Someone gives you the look, you get closer, they get closer, you gently touch lips and then go from there. Some of this functions at the level of biology. You can actually see the other’s pupils dilate. We’re not talking random heavy tounge kissing and groping or negotiating kinky sex.
MeThisGuy@feddit.nl 2 days ago
TIL. probably why I’m a self proclaimed hopeless romantic.
and dig your username… I’m something of a machinist meself
Machinist@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about informed consent. (Active in the BDSM community.) I’ve negotiated a lot of sex. However, some things, like a first kiss, I prefer to communicate without talking. Most functional adults should be able to negotiate a kiss without saying a word. Especially if you’re on a real date. You just have to ease into it.
Hell yeah. I still love the trade. Did management and consulting but have found I’m not happy if I’m not working with my hands. Working with my hands includes modelling and programming.