Well said - great advice. Giving this guy as little room in OP’s head as possible and concentrating on having a good life is the best answer
CatZoomies@lemmy.world 8 months ago
The best way to get back at someone is to have a great life. Ignore him and block him, and carry on with your great life.
He’s obviously insecure, fragile, and arrogant. Move on - you’ll never win anything by stopping to his level, and you’ll never convince him to change his ways by putting him in his place. The older you get, the more you realize quickly people just aren’t worth your time.
When you see him next, just ignore him. When he gossips about you to his brother or your friends in an attempt to get a rise out of you, laugh and ignore him.
Have a great life, and fuck that guy.
DisOne@lemm.ee 8 months ago
tonystark29@lemmy.world 8 months ago
And I will have a good life :)
tonystark29@lemmy.world 8 months ago
Thank you. Spot on.
fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 8 months ago
My one addition is to consider how you will handle this as time goes on. Will you laugh it off to mutual friends with a “Why would I care what he says? There are a million people who’s opinions of me matter more.”? When would you consider it actual harassment? What impact would it have to have on your life to effect your mental well being enough to take action, and what would that action be?
I pose these questions because proactively answering them can put you in a much better situation in that happy life. Most likely, it will also mature your opinion of the situation over time, allowing you to be just the right balance of firm but level-headed on how you alter those plans when and if the time comes.
tonystark29@lemmy.world 8 months ago
As time goes on, I’d rather not think about him at all, but for the rare times that I do, I would want to laugh it off, because his way of bragging is actually kind of funny.
fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 8 months ago
Sounds like you’re in a healthy place, that’s great.