Its a horrible spot to be in. She sounds incredibly strong and complex, and you’re all trapped in this cycle of trying to do the best for her.

You’ve got a great grasp of what’s going on with her, and realising when you need to stap back to protect your relationship and yourself.

There’s not going to be a single simple answer for her, she is driving the bus while ignoring her long term needs and the people around her trying to provide support and direction. A PEG may just be the answer though. She can get the nutrition she needs to function and heal, without all the other pressures around food intolerances and dietary intake. But they’re not great… they leak, they change what clothing you can wear because the surgeons always put them in the wrong spot on women, they need replacing and there’s trauma and pain with that… its a tough spot to be in. You’re doing an incredible job, if no one else is telling you that, we are.