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ryedaft@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Treat people 20% better than you wish to be treated to correct for measurement error.
So if you want to scale back your interactions with someone because you feel like you are putting in all the effort: Adjust your effort to 20% more than their effort. Also consider whether you might just have more energy / time for this potential friendship. It’s okay that one person “does” more than the other.
SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 days ago
I have a similar rule I call the 2/3 rule. I’m willing to put in around 2/3 of the effort required to keep any sort of relationship going. If the other person consistently can’t put in 1/3, I’ll be cordial but won’t otherwise do anything more for them than I’d do for a stranger.