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latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day agoIt’s not, the Oedipal complex is a correlation. The “marrying one’s parent” phenomenon most certainly has a psychological causality somewhere, but it’s certainly not due to a generally applicable Oedipal complex.
A concrete example, the only relatively comparable thing I’ve had to deal with was tending to swlect romantic parthers based on how familiar my dynamics with them were to me. Having lived in an unhealthy familial environment and with relatively few childhood friends, the only familiar I had was belligerent and punitive. Otherwise, none of my parents, or even from my extended family, are my type. I’m saying this in a literal sense. And this is against a constant, solid background of “like…no, they’re family.”
Isn’t it just dead simple in that a mother is caring and gives you the feeling of safety, generally speaking, so you look for that in a partner too?
So it’s not that you want to fuck your mom but you look for positive traits in a partner that you parents instilled in you.
Agreed, it’s that familiarity I referenced! But talking from Freud’s perspective, “if it isn’t about sex, then get out of here” (paraphrasing):))
sxan@midwest.social 1 day ago
I love Lemmy. It’s a place where you can post a comment and not know if you’re going to get a vitriolic anarchist taking exception to how you said something, or a detailed, clinical clarification of a point.
On Reddit, you get only the first thing. I live for the second.