I have two great example of this.

1-
Last month, the mountainside behind our house was set on fire. Burned ~20 acres, the inferno was within a few hundred feet of our house. My only thoughts were “we are OK, we have resources that we can tap into if necessary”

2-
Last week, my wife’s ex decided to throw his new marriage into the trash, and we had to get the kids from him a week early. Problem was, several months in advance, I’d spent $400+ on non-refundable tickets (thanks ticketmaster) for two back-to-back shows for my wife and I, based around the fact that the kids were going to be with bio-dad until after this weekend.

We scrambled to find childcare, but to no avail, plus my parents already had plans for the weekend. Luckily my in-laws were willing to take the kids for two nights in a row so we could hit those shows.

I wanted to murder that man, because these shows were a literal dream come true for my wife (it was her birthday gift). I still want to murder him, because we had a solid co-parenting relationship with him and his now-sbtx wife.