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valentinesmith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 week agoSounds like a tricky question.
I would say that if my partner would basically do everything for me in housework I would feel uncomfortable if I was not also on some level giving back to the relationship. Not that I like traditional roles but I feel in those there was at least the assumption that both work, one at home and one for another boss.
In a scenario where someone really just does everything for you and there is nothing to contribute that would also feel grating and uncomfortable to me. Just hearing about a partner who would cozy you up for a while though sounds chill to me and something that has happened to me and I have enjoyed. Especially if it feels contextually appropriate: you having a rough patch and getting more support from them.
So when I first read it, thinking about my partner and me just chilling and me not having to do much of anything that did sound slightly tempting on some level as a fantasy.
Maybe that helps as a different perspective?
latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 week ago
Certainly does, thank you!
We have a lot of piints in common from what I see, because I, too, start off feeling uncomfortable in a “hey, that’s not exactly fair of me” manner, and evolves into an “ok, I’m starting to feel infantilised/suffocated” coded frustration if it persists after attempting to talk about it and balance things out a bit.
Otherwise, hell yeah! Gimme a lazy weekend on the couch with my SO, we’ll binge everything under the sun! I don’t mind being an utter slob as long as we both get to be slobs equally! But it’s entirely untennable long-term, so I’d much prefer to be allowed to pull my own weight within the relationship, unless objectively incapacitating circumstances apply, as you’ve mentioned!
Thank you so much for providing your perspective, clarity is within reach now! Also, deeply appreciate this coming from a former Sloth Demon😉 (got to see your old tag for a spell, had a good laugh:))) )