Comment on Does people doing things that upset others also upset you?
instantnudel@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
Yes absolutely. Thats called Solidarity and is a big part of what I stand for as a leftist. Its not all about me and not everything has to only bother me for me to fight it. Im a withe men. Sexim or Racism aren’t issues for me personally. Im lucky. But im obviously still against Sexim and Racism even tho only other people are suffering from it.
That should be common sense imo.
gon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
You know, sexism and racism would probably be a much better allegory than vanilla perfume…
Rozz@lemmy.sdf.org 3 weeks ago
Those feel different. One is active hate towards others (that’s the point of it), and the other is doing/using something you enjoy that happens to negatively affect others. They may be adjacent, but not the same.
Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Neither sexism nor racism needs to be active hate towards someone. If you just absentmindedly select a white person for s job, you might not even be aware you did it nor do you need to hate the black applicant.
lurch@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
I’m pretty sure some people enjoy being sexist/racist and some even get off of watching people being sexist/racist. However, there are people in both groups who also understand it’s a problem and stand against it, except with consent in private.
Ceedoestrees@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Most people who have sexist or racist opinions don’t know their behavior is sexist or racist, most of it is conditioned socially.
So maybe the perfume analogy is good?
A person might not be aware is harmful, but there’s information about it, they just don’t seek it out. Maybe someone tried to explain their perfume is overwhelming, making it difficult for a small group of people to concentrate, but they’ve ignored them. When they see groups trying to get their perfume banned from public places they think those people are overreacting because they like the perfume. The perfume clearly isn’t hurting anyone because anyone who would be affected by it has left their workplace, or decided not to say anything because they keep getting ignored, and management thinks they complain too much, and they can’t lose their jobs. Socially, anyone who doesn’t like the perfume already avoids them. The perfume can’t be that big of a deal.