My therapist is taking two weeks off for their own mental health, been hearing the same woes from everyone and it’s weighing
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zipzoopaboop@lemmynsfw.com 3 weeks ago
Therapy doesn’t help much if you have no power over the root cause
FordBeeblebrox@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
devAlot@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Totally get where you’re coming from. If you’re staring down the barrel of something massive like trauma, abuse, an enitre system that’s completely fucked and seems way bigger than you and the others fighting it are or ever will be, it feels like no matter how much “self care” you do, the external crap stays the same, right?? It’s fucking maddening.
But idk, to me, therapy (actual, good therapy with a non-shitty therapist) isn’t about giving us power over the root cause, not always anyways because like you said, sometimes it’s impossible. Imo, a lot of times it’s about helping people stop handing more power to “it” (whatever it may be) than “it” already has. We don’t get to choose what happens to us sometimes, but we do get to choose how we respond to it, how we carry it, how we let it affect us, how we pass our pain onto others. It can be a super uncomfortable, yet extremely liberating, paradox. Like, okay, I might not be able to slay the dragon here (sorry, nerd here), but I can sure as hell stop feeding it in whatever way way I was (constant unhealthy thought patterns, my own actions or the lack thereof, etc).
Therapy doesn’t fix the world for sure, but it can help us decide which parts of the suffering are necessary, or which parts we might be unconsciously choosing to carry longer than we need to. Idk, that’s where our power really is, imo.
itsprobablyfine@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
It sounds like you’re telling me to stop caring about climate change cause I’d be happier
devAlot@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
No no no, I’m not telling anyone to stop caring about anything, let alone something as important as climate change. I’m just some idiot on the internet lol, not anyone who should be telling others how to live their lives.
I was just trying to explain that therapy, when it’s good, can help people find peace, let go when they need to, or figure out how to carry the things they care about without being crushed by them.
zipzoopaboop@lemmynsfw.com 3 weeks ago
Fair, it can teach you tools many people do not have