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Mediocre_Bard@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

Brother, it sounds like you are depressed. Maybe it’s job related, maybe it’s not. A few things to do are:

Talk to your medication provider about these symptoms and consider medication specifically for depression.
Talk Therapy. Pills are good, talk therapy is approximately ::checks notes:: 10,000 times better. 2.1. Find a therapist that is a good fit. I’ve had good therapists over the years, and I have had bad therapists. My current therapist is amazing and a the reason why I didn’t die by suicide in January.
Don’t ‘should yourself’. Avoid using that word to describe anything, ever. You don’t have to do or enjoy anything right now, and you can’t feel bad for suffering from (probably) depression. It’s a mental illness. You didn’t do anything wrong and you are certainly not to blame.

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GrayBackgroundMusic@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
I have meds for depression, amusingly. They’re the same for anxiety.

I used to see a therapist but haven’t in a while. Been thinking about going again.

I think “should” is OK in moderation. I don’t use it to judge myself per se, but to ask if I’m off base or something.
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hunnybubny@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
Therapy and meds. At some point you need both. One to change chemistry in the brain (meds) to properly rewire your brain (therapy).

High stress mixed with some thought loops is doing exactly the same. It changes chemistry from baseline and rewires your brain. Often for worse.

Regarding #3. Consider this. You break your hand. Would you be questioning yourself over using the other hand for daily tasks? You break your foot. “I should be walking faster” is doing what good in that moment?

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