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sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 hours agoIts actually somewhat confusing.
Sometimes, to some people… topping just means you are literally, physically on top of them.
Sometimes, it means you are doing the physical penetrating.
Sometimes, top/bottom are the same as dom/sub… to mean authoritative vs submissive…
But you have terms like power bottom, and service top.
A power bottom is physically underneath the partner, but doing almost all the work, and is often also in the authority position.
A service top is physically on top, and/or doing most of the strenuous/penetrative physical work… but they are actually submissive, subervient to the other partner, who is authoritatively directing all their actions.
The vocab for all this is still quite varied and usually only standardizes fully amongst geographically constrained areas, as you would expect with what is basically a set of slang terms.
Landless2029@lemmy.world 12 hours ago
Excellent answer.
I’d argue that the outfit in the meme is generally considered a Dom outfit which is what triggers the start of this thread.
Although inaccurate it makes the point for the joke. A TOP image would be much more vulgar and hard to find a clean image for.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 hours ago
Exactly.
You can get away with a … relatively low nudity depiction of a person in a bondage suit.
This also just generally conveys ‘sexually curious / active.’
Whereas an actual, more literal depiction of topping someone would essentially by definition be so explicit as to be so blunt that … it isn’t as humorous, because your brain doesn’t have to do any work to ‘get’ the joke.
Not to mention it would probably be censored, and thus far less people would see it.
I dunno, maybe someone can, or has come up with a … ‘help me step-bro, I’m stuck in the washing machine!’ … type of image.
Maybe a cowboy or cowgirl riding a bucking horse … would be sufficiently understandable visual metaphor?