I don’t think there is an easy answer to a question like that, as it involves a lot of individual circumstances. You did land a licence, which suggests you are not cognitively impaired to the point that driving is out of the question? Give yourself some credit. It sounds like you are on the anxiety spectrum though, as am I. Perhaps you were in the midst of a panic attack at the time of the accident?

I think in some ways it’s a noble calling to find alternatives to driving? But do it for the right reasons. If it’s stage 1 on the path to becoming an agoraphobiac, fuck that. You’re only 19. Don’t build a cage around yourself now that you’ll only realize is there when you get your standard issue midlife crisis at 40.

My son doesn’t drive, and he seems to be doing ok. He strategized to get an apartment near enough to work and amenities that he can walk most of the time, and there is also an LRT station nearby. He rideshares for anything else.

I don’t know what will happen if he ever starts a family? That could introduce some challenges, but one day at a time I guess. For my part as an empty nester at this point, I have discovered an ebike is an awesome alternative to driving the 10k to work. It saves so much money over any other option, is better for the environment, and I’ve even managed to shed a bit of weight. Still got the old dad bod though…

But I think these are some of the right reasons to look at driving alternatives. Anxiety just sucks, and you’ll probably still have it on an ebike or public transit. Take care of that first and then assess your options, I think?