To add to this: an actual calendar on which you can write important stuff is very helpful. Not a digital one, use one made out of paper, and keep a en nearby. It’s easier to have a quick glance for you important stuff that way, and it makes it easier to coordinate stuff if there are others in the household.
Thorry84@feddit.nl 3 days ago
My personal advice: Take notes.
Just write everything down. I recommend an actual physical little paper notebook and a pencil. If you think: “Oh I must remember that” or “I’m almost out of …, I must buy more”
Now don’t go writing down stuff like fun facts or YouTube videos you want to watch. Make it all practical stuff, stuff you need to do or is important in your life. It’s your brothers birthday next week, write down the date and what you need to do to prepare. Your stomach hurt and you think you ate something that didn’t agree with you, keep a log of what you ate and how your stomach felt. That way you can identify allergies or things you can’t eat (anymore). Having trouble remembering names? Write down after you met someone: “Today I met Steve, Steve is in charge of accounting at Megacorp.” Measured the room you want to put new flooring in? Make a little sketch and put the measurements in.
Writing stuff down physically forces your mind to pay attention and remember it later in a structured way. It also feels really good to physically tick off a task or cross it off. It can be a bit hard to keep up with and not go the other way and put so much into it, it doesn’t help anymore. But it can help a lot, especially if you are the kind of person that thinks 8 times a day to put out the garbage, only to wake up the next morning and you’ve forgotten to actually do the thing.
neidu3@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
Dagwood222@lemm.ee 3 days ago
Physical calendars are great. One good trick is to write all the important dates down the day you get it. Mom’s birthday; parent’s anniversary; any event that you want to be sure to remember.
jrbaconcheese@yall.theatl.social 3 days ago
I agree on this one. As OP has executive function problems, just the act of writing something will at least create some connections in your brain, even if you never read the notes again.
Having said that: if you adopt any of these ideas and they don’t work for you, feel free to un-adopt them after ~a month of legitimate effort. No sense in wasting your time if it’s not working.