phoenixz@lemmy.ca 1 week ago
No you’re not.
Cheating doesn’t automatically make a person bad, it makes a person a human being. Mist people cheat, and I’d say that most “cheating sessions” happen without the spouse knowing. It happens and usually there are underlying reasons ranging from “he just really really likes sex” to “they never have sex together” to a host of other reasons. I don’t think that the reason “he’s an asshole” is the real reason, ever.
Having said that; even if your dad cheated just and only just because he wanted to be an asshole to your mom, that still doesn’t mean that anything should have to change between you and your dad.
Your dad is your dad. Anyone trying to forcibly change that is raising a host of red flags.
I understand your mother feels hurt right now but if she isn’t able to see beyond that hurt what your best interests are then maybe she is actually the problem, not your father.
Fondots@lemmy.world 1 week ago
Assuming that’s supposed to be “most people”
There have been a lot of studies on this over the years, and the data is of course easy to skew because a lot of people are going to be reluctant to admit to their cheating, or people having different ideas about what constitutes “cheating” but every study I can find that seems credible, it seems to hover at more like 25% of people cheat, give or take maybe about 10%
Even when you look for people who have experienced a partner cheating on them most of the studies I can find have it at below 50%
You can get into the weeds and probably find some cases where most people in certain demographics cheat if you want to cherry-pick your data a bit.
So no, most people don’t cheat.
phoenixz@lemmy.ca 1 week ago
Like Wikipedia says: <citation needed>
I’m sure studies haven been done, and I’d love to see them.
Where, though, what demographics? What types of people, men, women, rich, poor, what language, what culture, what ethnicity? All of those matter.
I can tell you right now that Muslims would probably cheat less, mostly because of less opportunities and the extreme punishments involved. Mexicans, on the other hand, different story. Having lived there for two decades in different cities over the country, having had friends in different layers, rich, poor, brown, white… I can tell you from personal anecdotal experience there that 80+% cheats or has cheated. You can meet a new guy and presume he has cheated or will cheat. Some guys cheat weekly, some women cheat weekly. There are fuck hotels within a 500 meter radius in whatever city you are. Cheating is also seen differently than in Muslim countries.
Yeah, loads of people cheat and if you really believe it’s only 10% then I got a bridge to sell you.